12 Women With Perfect Responses for Why They Don’t Have Kids

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Originally published on Mic.com – please click over to see the graphics!

In a classic Seinfeld episode, Elaine sits surrounded by friends with kids as they accost her with the now-infamous line: “You gotta have a baby!” We can only guess millions of women watched, nodding their heads and wondering: What do you say when society demands to know when you’ll procreate, and why you haven’t done so yet?

Even as more millennials choose to delay children or remain child-free altogether, the demand on women to have babies is still high. Media has doubled down on celebrity “baby bump” coverage, and young women report feeling real pressure thanks to society’s strong link between femininity and motherhood.

Many women indeed long for children, while others are firmly against it and still more are undecided. But regardless of a woman’s feelings on childbearing, the decision to have kids is hers alone, to be decided for her own reasons. And no woman should have to submit to society’s relentless questioning on the matter.

Here are 12 women who had the perfect responses to the dreaded baby questions.

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Jada Pinkett-Smith’s Comments Miss the Point About Male Sexuality

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Originally published on Mic.com

If we took a peek inside the male brain, what would we find? Jada Pinkett-Smith — and society at large — is pretty sure it’d be sex, sex and more sex. Something the ladies would know nothing about, right?

During an appearance on Late Night With Seth Meyers on Thursday, the Magic Mike XXL star said being constantly surrounded by the “tastiness” of her nearly nude male costars helped her, as a woman, finally understand what it’s like to be ruled by another “head.” That is, a little guy “down there” who demands relentless procreation. Pinkett-Smith said:

“That was the moment I was like, I feel really bad for guys, because all day long, you’re constantly dealing with that kind of stimulation.”

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9 Things All People in Long-Distance Relationships Know to Be True

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Originally published on Mic.com

Leah, 25, from Arizona, was hesitant when she first began developing feelings for Stephen, a 22-year-old from Northern Ireland she met on the photo-sharing app Fling. Long-distance relationships are hard, she knew, and she worried that she would hold him back in his everyday life. But they decided to give it a try, and six months later, they’re still going strong.

Online dating and tools like FaceTime and Skype, not to mention a tough job market that forces people to move more, have made long-distance relationships more common than ever. The U.S. Census Bureau estimates that 3.6 million married Americans are living apart (a 40% increase since 1999), and the former Center for the Study of Long Distance Relationships puts the number of college students in LDRs at 4.4 million.

For couples like Leah and Stephen, it can really work. “The biggest positive surprise has been that we have made this work for so long already,” Leah told Mic, “and that I have discovered what love really is.”

It sounds cheesy, but it’s true: The challenges of LDRs end up revealing what really matters in a relationship, long-distance or otherwise. Here are the things you learn after living with your love hundreds of miles away.

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9 Pieces of Dating “Advice” That Are Actually Bullshit

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Originally published on Mic.com

If you’ve been single and ready to mingle for any length of time, you’ve probably picked up bits of “advice,” all of which add up to a confusing, outdated set of guidelines that tell us what to say and do (or not) in order to land a spouse (the assumed goal, of course). 

How long should you wait to text him back? Four hours minimum. When can you sleep together? After no fewer than three dates. Should you move in together? Of course not — why would he buy the cow when he can get the milk for free?

This advice has never really been proven, of course, yet somehow we still hear it from parents, grandparents, friends and even ourselves in moments of self-doubt. The truisms have been so bought into that many have been immortalized into a book called (what else?) The Rules.

These platitudes are more than annoying to hear — they’re harmful and deeply offensive. They not only put the blame on single people, but they also assume men and women play different roles in this game called love (not to mention that dating is only happening between men and women). But it’s 2015. We know better. It’s time to kill these nine “rules” once and for all.

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One Surprisingly Intimate Way To Know You’re With the Right Person

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Originally published on mic.com

Do you hold hands?

You may have already kissed that special someone, indulged in a couch makeout session, and even had sex; but the thrill of holding hands is as real and more important than any other type of physical intimacy.

We often view sex as the height of physical intimacy, so it seems counterintuitive that the innocent act of holding hands could be so emotionally charged. But in today’s dating era, holding hands feels more intimate than ever. And if you find yourself wanting to reach out and grab your date’s hand, that could be a sign that this relationship is the real deal.

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This Is What Hollywood Keeps Getting Wrong About the Female Orgasm

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Originally published on mic.com

It’s official: Actresses are getting tired of doing “the orgasm face.”

The Affair star Ruth Wilson lamented that she’s constantly required to make “that face” onscreen, telling Net-A-Porter‘s The Edit last week, “I kept insisting, ‘Why have I always got to do the orgasm face? There should be a male orgasm face. Why is it always the woman who’s orgasming?'”

Anyone can picture the exact face she’s referring to. From the perfectly arched back to the mouth that stays delicately pretty even when it’s moaning, TV’s classic O-face would have you believe every woman looks, sounds and acts exactly the same during sex.

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12 Absurd Conundrums All Twins Have To Reckon With

Add this to the list of exciting things that have happened to me: I was featured in the BuzzFeed Community!

Anyone can write and publish a post using BuzzFeed’s Community tool. After you write your post, you can suggest it to be featured on the BuzzFeed Community page. BuzzFeed Commmunity editors select their favorite submissions and post them on the Community page. This ensures that people will actually see your post (otherwise, it will only be seen by those who you email the link to).

Call it beginner’s luck or my own natural BuzzFeed abilities (*dusts off shoulders*), but my very first post was selected to be featured on the BuzzFeed Community page! Check it out here: http://www.buzzfeed.com/emigdol/12-absurd-conundrums-all-twins-have-to-reckon-with-80rv

112 Weddings: Filmmaker Reveals What Really Happens After the Ceremony

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Originally published on Inside Weddings

While filming 112 weddings over the course of 20 years, videographer and documentary filmmaker Doug Block found he couldn’t shake one simple question: After the cake was cut and the gifts were opened, whatever became of these couples’ marriages?

That question inspired 112 Weddings, a documentary that explores how life and marriage have changed for 10 couples since Block filmed their weddings years earlier. Juxtaposing footage from the couples’ wedding days with candid present-day interviews, the film reveals which marriages thrived, stumbled, and, in two cases, ended.
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“Wedding Island” Star Sandy Malone Shares the 12 Most Common Mistakes Brides Make

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Listen up, brides: Sandy Malone’s wedding-planning class is now in session.

The star of TLC’s Wedding Island, Sandy is the founder of Weddings in Vieques, a destination-wedding planning company located on Vieques Island, off the coast of Puerto Rico. Prior to launching the company in 2007, she worked in marketing, journalism, and media strategy in Washington, D.C.; and her down-to-earth, no-nonsense approach to wedding planning has become her signature.

With more than 400 weddings under her belt, it’s tough to find a type of bride or disaster Sandy hasn’t experienced. Below, she reveals the 12 most common mistakes brides make – and how to avoid them.

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