Monthly Archives: June 2015

There’s Good News for People Who Still Use Phones the Old-Fashioned Way

23 Tuesday Jun 2015

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Waiting anxiously by the phone isn’t what it used to be.

The stereotype of a girl waiting by the phone for her crush to call has turned into prayers that our phones won’t ring because talking on the phone is awkward and feels bizarrely invasive. In 2012, a Pew Research Center study found that just 26% of teens talk to friends on their cellphones.

But while texting has gotten us to trade answering machines for emojis, when it comes to maintaining a spark, there are still couples out there picking up their smartphones to talk — which is clearly the smart thing to do.

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9 Times Movies Blantantly Lied to Us About What Sex Is Really Like

23 Tuesday Jun 2015

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Even actors know it.

If sex was really like it was in movies, we’d always be hoarse from sexy moaning, post-coital cigarettes and orgasms that arrived promptly three minutes into sex. In an interview with Harper’s Bazaar U.K., Kristen Stewart copped to the high standards to which her famous sex scene in Twilight was held, griping, “It had to be transcendent and otherworldly, inhuman, better sex than you can possibly ever imagine, and we were like, ‘How do we live up to that?'”

While the film industry is thankfully demonstrating a new interest in depicting the unglamorous reality of sex, led by filmmakers like Amy Schumer, Judd Apatow and Lena Dunham, the majority of movies still abide by the same stubborn clichés. It’s time to stop comparing and start calling bullshit.

Here’s what movies would have us thinking sex is really all about.

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11 Male Celebrities With Sex Advice All Men Need to Hear

23 Tuesday Jun 2015

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It’s a scene we know all too well: A woman, seeking to impress a new boyfriend, surrounds herself with magazines preaching the hottest ways to turn him on — “8 Positions to Drive Him Wild!” and “Naughty Sex Tips!” and, of course, “His Ultimate Sexual Fantasy!” The unequivocal takeaway: Women should be the ones figuring out how to make sex great by pleasing men.

Except, well, that’s only half the story. While women mull porn-style acrobatics and applause-worthy blow jobs, we’re missing an important thing that can make sex great for men: Making sure women are enjoying it as much as they are.

Despite the well-known orgasm gap, a 2010 study in the journal Personality and Individual Differences found that 90% of men say they do care if their partner gets off. And that intention matters: The more a man is invested in his partner’s pleasure, the narrower that gap becomes. Great sex, in short, means it’s great for both people involved.

Thankfully, these 11 kickass men aren’t shy about speaking up for what men should really be looking for when it comes to awesome sex.

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The Most Underrated Part of Your Relationship? Your Best Friend

23 Tuesday Jun 2015

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When Deborah, 27, was in labor, her husband was by her side for emotional support. But during a particularly painful moment, it was her best friend, Christina, who jumped into the hospital bed with her and held her.

“No questions asked, no words spoken. She knew exactly what I needed in that moment and was there to provide it,” Deborah told Mic.

It’s an extreme example of something many of us know but don’t say as freely these days. Our modern expectations for romantic relationships are that they are everything — that our significant other is our cheerleader, our biggest fan, our teammate and, as Bachelor and Bachelorette finales like to remind us, our best friend.

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